Okay, so I know you want to be fabulous. Who wouldn’t?!
Fabulous people are crazy attractive and live amazing lives. We’re truly
exceptional and extraordinary. There are really only two types of people in
life: average people and fabulous ones. I don’t want you to be average; so, without
further ado, I present to you The 10 Fab Commandments!
1. Thou Shalt Know
Who You Are
Pretending to be someone else is not cute. There’s something
about you that works; find what it is and work the hell out of it. Literally
have a sit-down with yourself and write down all the things that make you who
you are: your personality, your upbringing, your likes and dislikes. This will
help you to see what sets you apart from everyone else. If you want to be fab,
you have to be different. Discovering who you really are and letting that
person shine will make you one fabulous chick!
2. Thou Shalt Get Counseling
Or at least have somebody to talk to about your problems.
Let’s face it, we all have problems, unless you’re Beyonce. And even Beyonce
has a crazy sister who beats up her husband in elevators and a father with three different baby mommas. There are all sorts of
problems that need to be worked out: problems on the job, problems with
finances, problems that stemmed from childhood. When these things go unchecked, they make
you bitter and unhappy…and being bitter and unhappy is NOT fabulous!
3. Thou Shalt Not
Feel Ashamed
If you’ve been following my blog, you probably know by now
that I had a horrific childhood – one that I will talk about in detail in my
upcoming book From Poughkeepsie to Paris:
A Ghetto Girl’s Journey to Becoming a Fabulous Woman. There was a time when
I was embarrassed and ashamed about the things that happened to me; but, as I
got older (and followed Commandments #1 and #2) I began to accept who I was and
used it to help others. Feeling ashamed will hold you back from being all that
God has created you to be. When you’re fabulous, you don’t let anything hold
you back; instead, you use everything to propel yourself forward.
4. Thou Shalt Be
Happy
What makes you happy? Have you ever asked yourself that? You
ever notice how fabulous people are always smiling? It’s like there’s an inner
glow that surfaces. That inner glow is called “happiness”. When you’re happy,
you make other people happy and comfortable around you. You become infectious
and others will want to have what you’re having. Happiness is attractive.
Ladies, if you’re looking for a man, one of the main things you should be is
happy. Smile. Laugh. Be jovial. Everybody loves people like that. Become happy
and they’ll love you, too!
5. Thou Shalt Think
Highly of Thyself
Fabulous people know we’re fabulous and we know what makes
us fabulous. Because we take inventory of our accomplishments and we hold onto
every compliment we’re paid, we have a constant supply of belief and confidence in
ourselves. And you should, too! When you
think highly of yourself, others will begin to think highly of you as well…and
they’ll treat you accordingly. Know that you’re worth every good thing and luxury
this world has to offer. Require excellent service and high-quality accommodations.
Expect the red carpet to be rolled out for you everywhere you go. The fabulous
person knows they’re worth it. Want to be fabulous? Then you have to know you’re
worth it, too!
6. Thou Shalt Handle
Compliments Gracefully
Have you ever given someone a compliment only for them to
turn around and discredit the very thing that you just complimented them on? It’s
a turnoff and an indication that their self-esteem isn’t as high as it should
be. Even if you’re having one of those days where you don’t feel topnotch or up
to par, still handle compliments gracefully. If someone says, “Hey, girl! Your
booty looks good in that dress!” Don’t humiliate yourself (or the compliment
giver) by saying, “You think so, girl? I just gained 10 pounds and I feel like
a slob!” No, ma’am. Don’t ever say that! Just simply say, “Thank you.” Be sure
to smile and pay them a small compliment as well. Practice being graceful and
elegant in all you do and you’ll find yourself in the fab society in no time!
7. Thou Shalt Soften
Up
Growing up in the ‘hood, I had to be hard all the time. I never
knew when I’d have to fight a group of girls or run from stray dogs. I wore
Timberland boots, jerseys, and baggy clothes. It wasn’t until I moved to LA in
2001 that I discovered the beauty of femininity. Once I embraced everything
that made me a girl, I began to feel free, and light, and flowy. Sometimes our
femininity is robbed from us by our circumstances, by things that happened in
our childhood, or by our environment. But, if you want to be fabulous, you have
to soften up. Think all things pretty and pink and soft. Wear dresses. Put on
some makeup. Embrace your femininity. God gave it to women for a reason. There’s
power in your femininity!
8. Thou Shalt Make
(And Keep) More Money
Fabulous people are high maintenance and it takes money to maintain
ones fabulousness. It’s imperative that you learn how to spend your money
wisely, make more money, save more money, and invest more money. You have to
see money as a tool for you to live the life of your dreams. Attend seminars
or take courses on finance and budgeting. You could even watch videos on smart
money management and investing on YouTube. One thing I did starting off and
even now is seek the advice of people who are doing better than me with their
money. No matter how you go about it, you have to begin to educate yourself on
how to become rich because, frankly speaking, you can’t be broke and fabulous
at the same damn time. That’s called being faux-fabulous and being
faux-fabulous is not cute!
9. Thou Shalt Travel
There are reasons why fabulous people love to travel: it
makes us well-rounded, it increases our value, we meet amazing people, we learn
different languages, and it makes us stand out from average people who never
leave (and aren’t even interested in leaving) the city they grew up in. If you
want to move up in status, the people you’ll encounter will be well-traveled;
and, if you’re not, they’ll begin to question your credibility, knowledge, and
ability to make things happen. Traveling is a huge part of the fabulous
lifestyle. And, once you begin to travel more, you’ll find that you’ll begin to
live life on an exceedingly higher, more fabulous level. Like a wise, fabulous woman once
told me, “The more fabulous you get, the more fabulous you get!”
10. Thou Shalt Give
Back
It’s truly a privilege to be fabulous. It means you have
more than enough, you’re living a full life, and you’re blessed and favored
beyond measure. God doesn’t allow you to become fabulous to feed your own ego
and brag to the world about how great you are. A part of being fabulous is
being humble enough to serve and give back to others. If you’ve done your work
after reading Commandment #1, you would have identified something about
yourself that you can use to be a blessing to others. There are certain things that
you’re passionate and feel deeply about. For me, it’s homeless people, foster
care children, and broken women. What about you? What pulls on your
heartstrings? Find out and begin to volunteer at organizations that serve the
people you’d like to give back to. You can also donate clothes, give money, or
support charities. Whatever it is, you absolutely have to give back.
That, perhaps, is the most important commandment of them
all.
With Love,
2 comments
To my friend, and my sister what an amazing set of priniciples/commandments to live by!!! Just know you were a blessing to me today!!! I love u!
ReplyDeleteI love you, sister! Thank you for reading my blog. Can't wait for our next convo. Have a blessed day!
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